Having a commitment to meet a great guy and create a wonderful relationship can be a lonely experience.
Your friends know you. Your family know you too. They care. They love you and want the best for you. They mean well. This means they try and help you.
You’re a women who is smart, grounded, and thoughtful – and those who know you can see your commitment to creating a relationship – they will offer advice, make suggestions, tell you what to do – and perhaps even set you up with people they know.
This is actually a pretty good way to meet quality men because it’s the people you trust and love. You can’t just leave it to them – it’s your relationship you’re creating. They need guidance – because if they don’t get any, the suggestions they make will be based on their opinions, background, and ideals instead of yours. This is why – no matter how well-intentioned your friends and family – it can feel like train wreck after train wreck, with everyone feeling frustrated and annoyed.
So how can you do this? I write a lot about knowing what you want – because it’s absolutely key. Whilst the BDH framework is a starting point, it’s not enough. With the women I’ve coached, I’ve had them turn their BDH framework into an elevator pitch. This takes thought, focus, and believe it or not – practice. I found it incredibly effective on my journey – not only for the difference it made to those around me, but also for the sense of clarity it gave me. As I shared it with people, I had the sense that it became more real.
On sharing your be-do-have elevator pitch with your family and friends, you can guess what will start to happen:
Oh you’ve got to meet…
That reminds me of…
What you’re saying sounds just like…
Your family and friends dramatically increase your effectiveness on your relationship journey – but you’re in charge. They want your guidance because they want to help.
- Spend time creating your BDH framework – then refine it into an elevator pitch
- Share the elevator pitch over coffee with your trusted, close family, and best friend
- Go to the edge of your comfort zone and take action – go on a date suggested by your friend, allow a family member to introduce you to someone, or some other expression of going beyond where you normally stop
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