Do you want to avoid the ‘players’ and escape the ‘nice-guy doormats’ and meet a good man?
Are you frustrated with bad dates and no progress towards a fulfilling relationship?
Take a breath and imagine this…
…eating lunch at work, you check your dating app. You see a new message from a guy you’ve been chatting to for about a week. He’s suggested meeting up for a drink after work on Friday at the bar down the road. Your heart beats a little faster.
…Speaking to your mum on the phone you say: “I went on a great third date yesterday. He was so easy to talk to. And get this – he calls and messages when he says he will. I can actually see a future”
…having had a bad day at work, feeling tired and frustrated. You get home you’re trying to find your keys in your bag, and he answers the door. He looks at you and says “are you ok? It looks like you’ve had a tough day”. You walk inside and he gives you a hug.
…waking up to the alarm, rolling over and snuggling in the arms of your great guy.
Maybe you can get dates but…
…you keep meeting either: a) ‘players’ – covering up their insecurity by proving they can pick up women, not interested in anything long-term, or b) ‘dweebs’ (for want of a better word) – who actually are insecure, badly dressed, sweaty palmed and desperate
…you’re frustrated with the mixed messages, risking your vulnerability, flirting, and being open – only to end up: a) bored and disappointed, b) hurt and rejected, or c) all of the above
…you’re fed up of being the ‘single friend’ and irritated at the thought of going family gatherings or friend’s weddings by yourself where people ask ‘so have you met anyone
To make it worse you keep wondering why internet dating has worked for friends but not for you.
Then you end up hating going out with friends because all they talk about are their boyfriends and husbands.
Even more frustrating – your well-meaning family and friends start to ‘advise’ with things like ‘you need to stop being so picky’.
Then worse still…they then ‘help’ by attempting to introduce to someone who would be ‘perfect for you’.
GO AWAY EVERYONE I’M GOING TO BE BY MYSELF FOREVER
Perhaps you’ve tried other dating advice, but it just doesn’t feel right.
Maybe you’ve watched YouTube videos from dating coaches and got inspired – but their suggestions seem over the top and difficult to do in every-day life…
…or you’ve read blogs or online articles, and feel better after reading them, and you resolve to act – but then find excuses not to do anything…
…or you’ve bought and read some *amazing* books, tried some ideas and made some progress – but get discouraged when you speak to friends and family.
Most dating advice can seem like ‘putting on an act’ or over-the-top and too difficult to do.
That’s because it doesn’t match who YOU are and YOUR personality
But why should you trust me?
I’m a decent guy who’s fed up of
a) women constantly moaning that there are “no decent men”,
2) the idiotic douchebags and lame too-nice guys giving quality men a bad name, and
D) people hiding the fact that they would LOVE to be in a fulfilling relationship
I spent years in the ‘friendzone’
Boys (and men) are super-competitive and into social hierarchy. As the small brown round kid at school who sucked at sport, I got used to being at the bottom. You know that old 90s hip-hop tune “I Wish” by Skee Lo? That’s my song!
As I got older, I decided I was never going to be like those idiots from school. I rebelled against the traditional “jock” stereotype by being a “nice-guy” – sensitive and able to express his feelings. The pattern was that women would say “Oh James you’re so nice, but we can only be friends”. GAAAAAH!
I grew my self-awareness (and continue to do so)
I’m the guy that reads those books and then does what it says. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey was the first big one in my twenties. And it blew my mind. I couldn’t believe how differently people treated me.
That opened the door to a load of self-development work. This ultimately supported me in dealing with the big stuff like my parents (and building a great relationship with them) through to forgiving the ex-girlfriends (yes there were some) – including the first person that broke my heart. This all freed me up and cleared a space for me to meet my wife. Yay!
I love being married
When we celebrated our 10th Wedding Anniversary in 2017, a waiter made half-joking/ half-serious comment about ‘making it that far’.
It’s common – and easy – to be cynical about marriage and relationships. In this age of disposable, instant gratification (online dating anyone?) being serious about wanting a nurturing, fulfilling, committed relationship is SCARY.
It is possible for YOU to meet a Good Man so that you can share your life with someone.
I understand how masculinity is changing
Masculinity is having a bit of a moment. Men ARE becoming more emotionally aware! My ideas about men’s issues and masculinity have been featured in The Guardian, The Metro, Good Men Project, and I’ve appeared on national live Radio and TV.
I’m a certified coach
I am a coach certified by Gallup and have over ten years’ experience coaching around personal and professional training and development programmes. My degree is in Psychology and Business Administration, and I’m a qualified teacher of over 15 years, and currently teach A-Level Psychology (which includes a module on Attachment and Relationships).
What women say about the ‘Natural Dating Strategy’
Before coaching with James was stressed, desperate and put pressure on myself and my relationship with my mother. I held so much significance about finding a man because of expectations. With James’ coaching, the result is an increase in the quality of men I meet.Farisa
I used to see the dating scene as overwhelming and I pretended that I was looking for a relationship, when in fact I was avoiding choosing. When I did the ‘Be-Do-Have’ exercise, I had a new confidence in myself and guys we’re asking me out! Since the coaching, I’ve got engaged and we’re planning our wedding in Dublin.Jen
I found it hard to find a decent man, so I took on James’s compliment challenge. I was surprised how easy it was and actually complimented a stranger! During my coaching I had a first date and didn’t have the usual knot in my stomach. I have realised my dating life is down to me and I can create opportunities.Emma
It’s time for a new approach to dating – a Natural Dating Strategy
Whether you feel that:
- the dating advice you’ve tried just doesn’t work,
- it seems like there are no good men out there, or
- the support from your family and friends is terrible
You’ll learn how to meet Good Men, that match who YOU are.
How it works
You’ll do an online assessment and have two coaching sessions from which you will:
- Know your patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting when dating
- Have five customised actions you can use immediately to meet quality men
- Create clarity about YOUR Good Man
Session 1: You
We will analyse your online assessment which means that we’ll create five actions that you can start doing immediately to improve your dating. The actions match your unique personality, so doing them will feel natural which gives you the best chance of dating success.
Session 2: Your Good Man
Using my powerful ‘BDH’ Framework we will create what a Good Man means FOR YOU. Which means that you will be able to message on dating apps effectively, filter out guys who are not worth your time and energy, and begin to find the Good Men in your life.
These are the components of the “Natural Dating Strategy” – an approach that’s as unique as your fingerprint.
Discover an approach as unique as you!
The Natural Dating Strategy makes it a breeze to:
- create an online profile that reflects who you are
- know how to make YOUR best impression on a date, and
- deal with unwanted approaches politely and graciously.
You may even start to approach guys naturally!
But what if…
…I don’t have time? Then you’ll get the same results you always have. How you manage your time currently is likely what’s stopping you in dating right now. It’s going to take being honest with yourself about what you want and what you’re currently doing to meet a Good Man. That will mean restructuring and challenging your current view of how you manage your time.
…I don’t have the money? It comes down to whether you think it’s worth investing in yourself. Nobody is going to give it to you unless you ask, and commit. Besides – it’s never about the time or the money – we can always work that out when we *really* need to. The way you are about finding the money is probably linked to the way you are about meeting a Good Man.
…I’ve never been coached before? You’re in for a positive, challenging experience! It’s different from being ‘mentored’ or ‘trained’. You develop yourself with my support by grappling with your own opinions; by identifying your own barriers; and by creating new actions. Coaching supports growth – and lasting change.
…it doesn’t work? There are no guarantees in life. Covid-19 has showed us that! Nothing I write, say, or do is going to is going to allow you to meet a Good Man without your willingness to be responsible for your life. But – after completing coaching sessions with me (including taking the required actions!), you will be: clearer about *your* patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving, AND starting to think about what a Good Man means *for you*.
…I’m not sure if it’s for me? If you’ve read this far, you’re a single woman who’s serious about meeting a good man – and probably been frustrated in your attempts to do so. You may have dealt powerfully with difficult circumstances, but you’re starting to recognise your limitations. If you’re not that kind of woman, up for this kind of challenge, then this isn’t for you.
Ready to start creating your Good Man Plan?
The Natural Dating Strategy is limited to just two places per calendar month.
- Two coaching sessions of an hour each
- Your personal strengths assessment
- Five dating actions customised to your personality
- BDH Framework that gives you clarity about *your* Good Man
Once you understand your profile and BDH Framework – you’ll be able to refine, recreate them whenever you like.
You’ll also be able to identify and get past blocks in your dating – whenever you want.
What’s the price?
Some relationship coaches charge £150 for a one-hour consultation. Some give a free consultation and then charge £100s to ‘update your dating profile’. Others charge £1000s for a handful of sessions that tell you what to say to ‘get him to love you’.
Think about how much you spent on…
…your last holiday
…clothes and shoes in the last six months
…the last three dates you went on (never mind what you spent on getting ready for the dates)
Altogether it’s likely to be £300 or more.
Were they worth the time, effort, and money? Maybe.
Did they directly help you meet a Good Man? Probably not.
Right now, the next four applicants in July will receive it for just £97
In exchange for this great value, I’m looking for women who are serious about creating a fulfilling relationship and telling your success story.
You’ll also get these bonuses!
- My free ebook ‘How To Approach Men In Real Life – a 15-day course with daily actions to get you comfortable starting a conversation with a man you don’t know.
- A 30-minute video ‘How To Avoid Players In Dating Today’ – including five specific strategies you can use