Do you want to avoid the ‘players’ and escape the ‘nice-guy doormats’ and meet a good man?
Are you frustrated with bad dates and no progress towards a fulfilling relationship?
Take a breath and imagine this…
…eating lunch at work, you check your dating app. You see a new message from a guy you’ve been chatting to for about a week. He’s suggested meeting up for a drink after work on Friday at the bar down the road. Your heart beats a little faster.
…Speaking to your mum on the phone you say: “I went on a great third date yesterday. He was so easy to talk to. And get this – he calls and messages when he says he will. I can actually see a future”
…having had a bad day at work, feeling tired and frustrated. You get home you’re trying to find your keys in your bag, and he answers the door. He looks at you and says “are you ok? It looks like you’ve had a tough day”. You walk inside and he gives you a hug.
…waking up to the alarm, rolling over and snuggling in the arms of your great guy.
Maybe you can get dates but…
…you keep meeting either: a) ‘players’ – covering up their insecurity by proving they can pick up women, not interested in anything long-term, or b) ‘dweebs’ (for want of a better word) – who actually are insecure, badly dressed, sweaty palmed and desperate
…you’re frustrated with the mixed messages, risking your vulnerability, flirting, and being open – only to end up: a) bored and disappointed, b) hurt and rejected, or c) all of the above
…you’re fed up of being the ‘single friend’ and irritated at the thought of going family gatherings or friend’s weddings by yourself where people ask ‘so have you met anyone
To make it worse you keep wondering why internet dating has worked for friends but not for you.
Then you end up hating going out with friends because all they talk about are their boyfriends and husbands.
Even more frustrating – your well-meaning family and friends start to ‘advise’ with things like ‘you need to stop being so picky’.
Then worse still…they then ‘help’ by attempting to introduce to someone who would be ‘perfect for you’.
GO AWAY EVERYONE I’M GOING TO BE BY MYSELF FOREVER
Perhaps you’ve tried other dating advice, but it just doesn’t feel right.
Maybe you’ve watched YouTube videos from dating coaches and got inspired – but their suggestions seem over the top and difficult to do in every-day life…
…or you’ve read blogs or online articles, and feel better after reading them, and you resolve to act – but then find excuses not to do anything…
…or you’ve bought and read some *amazing* books, tried some ideas and made some progress – but get discouraged when you speak to friends and family.
Most dating advice can seem like ‘putting on an act’ or over-the-top and too difficult to do.
That’s because it doesn’t match who YOU are and YOUR personality
Why work with me? Here are six reasons…
1. I understand how masculinity is changing
Masculinity is having a bit of a moment. Men ARE becoming more emotionally aware – but they are worried about things like sexual harrassment and job security!
2. I spent years in the ‘friendzone’
Boys (and men) are super-competitive and into social hierarchy. I rebelled against the traditional “jock” stereotype by being a “nice-guy” – sensitive and able to express his feelings. The pattern was that women would say “Oh James you’re so nice, but we can only be friends”. GAAAAAH!
3. I grow my self-awareness
I’m the guy that reads those books and then does what it says. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey was the first big one. This started my 20-year self-development journey which supported: i) building a great relationship with my parents, and ii) forgiving the ex-girlfriends. It cleared the space to meet my wife.
4. I love being married
I’m about to celebrate my 13th wedding anniversary. Being cynical about marriage and relationships is easy. In this age of instant gratification being serious about wanting a nurturing, fulfilling, committed relationship is SCARY. It is possible for YOU to meet a Good Man so that you can share your life with someone.
5. I’m a certified coach
I am certified by Gallup and have over ten years’ experience coaching around personal and professional training programmes. My degree is in Psychology and Business Administration, and I’m a qualified teacher of over 15 years, currently teaching A-Level Psychology.
6. I’m a decent guy who’s fed up of
a) women constantly moaning that there are “no decent men”,
2) the idiotic douchebags and lame too-nice guys giving quality men a bad name, and
D) people hiding the fact that they would LOVE to be in a fulfilling relationship
It’s time for an approach to dating that matches who you are – a ‘Natural Dating Strategy’
Before coaching with James, I would pick the wrong guys – narcissistic and avoidant men. I’d waste time and feel like I’m on a constant roller-coaster. I’ve been willing to change and signed up for the sessions with James because I wanted something tailor-made for me. Learning about my Top Five strengths has helped me not to be frightened about who I am. This is me. I’ve re-written how I respond because your coaching has empowered me. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Thank you!Steph
Whether you feel that:
- the dating advice you’ve tried just doesn’t work,
- it seems like there are no good men out there, or
- the support from your family and friends is terrible
You’ll learn how to meet Good Men, that match who YOU are.
How it works
You’ll do an online assessment (with a detailed, customised report) followed by a one-hour, in-depth personal coaching session. From this you will:
- Create your Five-step Action Plan to immediately get better dates, AND
- Discover your ‘Dating Identity’ and strategies to overcome your dating barriers
We will analyse your online assessment which means that we’ll create your ‘Five-Step Action Plan’ to immediately improve your dating. The actions match your personality, so doing them will feel natural which gives you the best chance of dating success.
Then we will determine your ‘Dating Identity’ (Gazelle, Leopard, Labrador or Swan) which means that you’ll get three strategies to get past your hidden blocks in dating – whenever you want – so that you can find the Good Men in your life.
These components create an approach as unique as your fingerprint – your “Natural Dating Strategy”.
Before the coaching I used to see dating as overwhelming. I would keep myself busy with other stuff like work, friends and more work. I pretended that I was looking for a relationship, when I was avoiding choosing. From the coaching, I had a new confidence in myself cause I knew what I wanted. I was dating more. And guys we’re asking me out! Not to sound cheesy but since I had the coaching, I’ve got engaged and we’re planning our wedding next year in Dublin.”Jen (she has got married and had a child since this was written)
With your ‘Natural Dating Strategy’ you could be…
…rebuilding and tweaking your dating profile, confident about what to write so that it reflects your unique strengths and deeper values. Enjoying the process.
…checking your dating app and spending 20m reading two good quality, well-written messages. Their profile pics look good too!
…sitting on your commute and you see a great looking, well-dressed guy. You turn to him and say “that jacket looks great on you”. He smiles, nods and says “Thank you! You made my day!”
…catching up with your best friend: “I had a great first date yesterday. The conversation was real – he didn’t mess about, I know exactly where I stand. And get this – he messaged this morning when he said he would”
…opening your wardrobe, excited to be choosing an outfit for a family party. Excited because you’re going to be arriving with your boyfriend and introducing him to your family.
But what if…
…I don’t have time? Then you’ll get the same results you always have. How you manage your time currently is likely what’s stopping you in dating right now.
…I don’t have the money? It comes down to whether you think it’s worth investing in yourself. The way you are about ‘finding the money’ is probably linked to the way you are about ‘meeting a Good Man’.
…I’ve never been coached before? You’re in for a positive experience – unlike mentoring or training. You develop yourself by engaging with questions and your own barriers, then creating new actions. Coaching supports growth – and lasting change.
…it doesn’t work? There are no guarantees in life. Nothing I do is going to magically get you a Good Man without your willingness to be responsible. But – after a coaching session with me, you will be clearer about *your* dating patterns and barriers.
…I’m not sure if it’s for me? If you’ve read this far, you’re a single woman who’s serious about meeting a good man. You may have dealt with past challenges, but you’re starting to recognise your own limitations – and you want a breakthrough.
What women are saying about the Natural Dating Strategy
I found it hard to find a decent man so I approached James and took on his compliment challenge. I was surprised how easy it was and I actually complimented a stranger. I’ve had a first date and it was surprisingly relaxed. I didn’t have the usual knot in my stomach and was able to be in the moment and not second guess myself. I’ve realised my dating life is down to me and I am able to create opportunities. Thank you!
Before coaching with James, I had tried everything. I had recently put up my profile on a dating app, but hadn’t messaged anyone. After the coaching, I had the confidence to give it a shot and went on my first date in a long time! The coaching got me thinking about relationships on an individual level with my own strengths and needs in mind. I realise it’s about me putting myself out there. Six months ago, I didn’t expect that I would have been on a date. Now it’s about conveying the *real me* on a date and practising *real conversation*. It’s got me started!
Before coaching with James I was stressed, desperate and put pressure on myself and my relationship with my mother. With James’ coaching, I have reconnected with my mother – I share everything with her: the dates, the ups the downs. It’s given me freedom around looking for a relationship. The result is, an increase in the connection and quality of the men I meet.
Ready to start creating your Good Man Plan?
The Natural Dating Strategy has limited places each calendar month.
- A one-to-one coaching session
- Your personal strengths assessment
- Five dating actions customised to your personality
- Three Strategies to get past dating blocks
What’s the price?
Some relationship coaches charge £150 for a one-hour consultation. Some give a free consultation and then charge £100s to ‘upgrade your dating profile’. Others charge £1000s for a handful of sessions that tell you what to say to ‘get him to love you’.
Think about how much you spent on…
…your last holiday
…clothes and shoes in the last six months
…the last three dates you went on (never mind what you spent on getting ready for the dates)
Altogether it’s likely to be £300 or more.
Were they worth the time, effort, and money? Maybe.
Did they directly help you meet a Good Man? Probably not.
Right now, the next three applicants will receive it for just £97
In exchange for this great value, I’m looking for women who are serious about meeting a Good Man, creating a fulfilling relationship and telling your success story.