By claiming what you’re brilliant at – you can enjoy a first date.
Appreciating your unique talents is also a foundation for learning to love yourself. It can feel as if there are so many negative messages around us that we internalise. They make us a marketers dream. “Buy this and feel great about yourself” is the fundamental message of every advert. It’s easy to end up doubting ourselves, second-guessing, and feeling bad – or even depressed.
We’re all the same, but we’re all different. Each of us has our own set of talents. Identifying and understanding them isn’t always easy – but learning to appreciate our strengths is key for building a relationship. This is the secret weapon to having a first date go really well: know your talents, know yourself, apply them to your experience of a date.
One of my clients discovered that one of her talents is her desire to continuously improve – the process of learning inspires her rather than the outcome. We discussed ways in which this could be applied on a date. She realised she could naturally take an interest in the other person – and learn all that she could about them. This is a completely natural expression of her talent – it is effortless.
Previously on a date, she had been nervous and self-conscious. She could barely speak – because her focus was on them judging her, and how she came across. On her next date, her experience was completely different. All her attention was off her own concerns and onto understanding them. The conversation was two-way. Having a good time became easy. She felt much more herself.
There was no knot in my stomach, I didn’t feel like running a mile, and I was able to enjoy it rather than feeling it was some kind of horrific trial.
This was after our second coaching call.
By identifying her talents and learning to appreciate them, she was able to discover how she could empower her relationship journey.
I help single women attract a great guy so that you can share your life with someone. I start with your special areas of brilliance, and then have you discover how you can apply them to your relationship journey.
- Take the CliftonStrengths test, (it costs around £15/ $20) and start to explore and practise your Top Five Strengths. This is the foundation on which you can create. It’s just the beginning – you can take it in any direction you choose.
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