As a good guy myself, the answer is that they’re hiding in plain sight.
Have you ever asked yourself “What is it with men?”
You’ve got life handled. Except one thing.
You make the effort to be in touch, choose a day, get ready and turn up on time only to meet a guy who’s: 1) a “player” that just wants sex, or 2) a “bland-nice-guy” who just doesn’t have his shit together. GAHHHH! FFS!
Over lunch with your best friend, you end up dissecting her latest second date with a guy. He’s said he’d like to meet up again, but hasn’t been in contact. It’s been three days. Should she text or wait? You think – you’re so over this nonsense. WHY IS EVERYTHING SUCH A GAME?
You log on to check your online profile – to a deluge of short messages from guys saying: “Hi how are you?” “Hiya – you look great – wanna chat?” “Hey great pic – u ok?” WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SO HARD?
Dating seems draining
Take a breath and imagine instead…
…checking your dating app and spending 20m reading two good quality, well-written emails. Their profile pics look good too!
…sitting on your commute and you see a great looking, well-dressed guy. You turn to him and say “that jacket looks great on you”. He smiles, nods and says “Thank you! You made my day!”
…catching up with your best friend: “I had a great first date yesterday. The conversation was real – he didn’t mess about, I know exactly where I stand. And get this – he messaged this morning when he said he would”
…opening your wardrobe, excited to be choosing an outfit for a family party. Excited because you’re going to be arriving with your boyfriend and introducing him to your family.
This is important to you
Why should you trust me?
Because I’m a decent guy who’s ANNOYED.
Fed up of:
a) women constantly moaning that there are “no decent men”,
2) the idiotic douche-bags and lame too-nice guys giving quality men a bad name, and
D) people hiding the fact that they would LOVE to be in a fulfilling relationship
I give a male perspective that’s based in:
– emotional awareness
– integrity, and
– real talk
Good men are out there, but they get missed in the world of dating.
Good Men get crowded out by the ‘players’ and ‘doormats’.
You want to meet a ‘good man’.
But online dating has become frustrating – your profile needs updating and you keep getting bad messages.
You’ve searched online, read some articles, and watched some videos – or even attended a seminar…
…but somehow the advice doesn’t feel right.
And you’re still going on bad dates.
Maybe you’re starting to recognise your limitations.
You realise that what you’ve been doing is NOT WORKING.
You need some real talk, you need an approach that’s matches your unique personality.
You need a plan. It is not going to just happen by ‘fate’.
Life is NOT a well-scripted romantic comedy
What women have said about Good Man Plan
I have always had the illusion that I knew who Mr. Right was for me. However, each time a relationship ended, I always thought I was the one to blame. After a really powerful conversation with James, what became very clear to me was that I didn’t know what I REALLY wanted as a life partner (ouch!)
James' coaching gave me clarity of the type of guy I would want to profoundly connect with! Soon after my conversation with James, I met Henrik. - Usua