As a good guy myself, the answer is that they’re hiding in plain sight.
Have you ever asked yourself “What is it with men?”
You’ve got life handled. Except one thing.
You make the effort to be in touch, choose a day, get ready and turn up on time only to meet a guy who’s: 1) a “player” that just wants sex, or 2) a “friendzoner” who’s nice but just doesn’t have his shit together. GAHHHH! FFS!
Over lunch with your best friend, you end up dissecting her latest second date with a guy. He’s said he’d like to meet up again, but hasn’t been in contact. It’s been three days. Should she text or wait? You think – you’re so over this nonsense. WHY IS EVERYTHING SUCH A GAME?
You log on to check your online profile – to a deluge of short messages from guys saying: “Hi how are you?” “Hiya – you look great – wanna chat?” “Hey great pic – u ok?” WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SO HARD?
Dating is draining
Take a breath and imagine instead…
…checking your dating app and spending 20m reading two good quality, well-written emails. Their profile pics look good too!
…sitting on your commute and you see a great looking, well-dressed guy. You turn to him and say “that jacket looks great on you”. He smiles, nods and says “Thank you! You made my day!”
…catching up with your best friend: “I had a great first date yesterday. The conversation was real – he didn’t mess about, I know exactly where I stand. And get this – he messaged this morning when he said he would”
…opening your wardrobe, excited to be choosing an outfit for a family party. Excited because you’re going to be arriving with your boyfriend and introducing him to your family.
This is important to you
What is a ‘good man’ anyway?
There are some qualities a good man will show.
– emotional awareness
– integrity (doing what he says he’ll do)
– effective communication
And they’ve got to be available!
There are lots more characteristics good men demonstrate, but it’s not always obvious because they get missed in the world of dating.
Remember though, to meet a good man, you need a plan. It is not going to just happen by ‘fate’.
Life is not a well-scripted romantic comedy
You want to attract a ‘good man’.
But online dating has become frustrating – your profile needs updating and you keep getting bad messages.
You’ve searched online, read some articles, and watched some videos – or even attended a seminar…
…but somehow the advice doesn’t feel right.
And you’re still meeting ‘players’ or ‘friend-zoners’
Maybe you’re starting to recognise your limitations but need specific guidance, honest support, and clear direction.
Work with me and discover an approach as unique as you.
I have always had the illusion that I knew who Mr. Right was for me. However, each time a relationship ended, I always thought I was the one to blame. After a really powerful conversation with James, what became very clear to me was that I didn’t know what I REALLY wanted as a life partner (ouch!)
James' coaching gave me clarity of the type of guy I would want to profoundly connect with! Soon after my conversation with James, I met Henrik. - Usua